“In life, you’re going to have to make risks in order to be where you need to be. You’re going to have to make changes and you’re going to have to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Keep your mind open to all possibilities and work hard!! God is good.”
~Kathy Mathis~
No one ever said life would be easy, no one said that you’d always be comfortable making choices, or that certain things would never be scary… especially when it comes to making choices. I think most of the time we are pretty much just going out on a whim and hoping for the best. At least that’s how I feel most of the time.
With not knowing myself, where to start for the most part, I think most if not everyone can relate to that feeling of being confused about what they want to do in their life. But allowing confusion and fear to rule your life is not at all conducive. I mean, if you never push yourself, never allow yourself to step OUT of that comfort zone, never make yourself even a little uncomfortable, you will always be in the same spot, likely, moping around because you are hindering yourself from becoming anything.
Tell me this… As a baby, if you feared falling, you refused to learn to walk because you didn’t want to get hurt… Are you still going to be crawling around at 60 years old? I think not. At some point you have to put on your big girl panties and just do it. You have to make a change. Sure, as a baby people tend to have no fear and THAT my friends, is why it is so incredibly important to maintain somewhat of a childlike mind.
Here’s another one. You’re a teenager, you get to learn to drive, yeah, you are completely thrilled, totally stoked to be behind the wheel AND THEN… You realize controlling such a massive vehicle at high speeds while other people are whizzing by you, you begin to understand that you can’t rely on the other people around you to take care and do their part and it hits you, you literally could die at any given moment while you are seated in that vehicle. So what are you going to do? You going to quit driving, be someone who will need to be driven around all their life? I doubt so… Likely you are going to overcome that fear that DISCOMFORT and you are going to drive on. Sure it may take you a while to really become comfortable, or some may not ever get comfortable, but you are going to learn to drive and at least try to be confident nonetheless.
But see, some people get so hopeless, so stuck in their fear of not being able to become anything that some people may bury themselves in work or projects, others will become depressed, sometimes even suicidal, and shoot, some if they don’t have a job their bury themselves too deep into their families or they’ll end up as alcoholics because they don’t know what else to do with themselves.
Now, I just want to interject here cause I kind of feel like I might sound a tad harsh and that is not at all my intention, I am not only trying to encourage y’all to step out of your comfort zones, but I’m also talking to myself. Because I know I tend to bury myself in my work that I have here at home, because I’m at a standstill at the moment where I can’t really do anything about my situation and sometimes it provides a very bleak outlook on my future. Especially when I have to take into consideration that I may not have the funds to start school next year like I planned.
Sometimes it takes finding a small job somewhere so that you can start gaining an income so that you can start experimenting a little more, sometimes it takes finally getting the guts to tell yourself, “This is what I am doing,” and then DO it. No it’s not always going to be comfortable, it’s not always going to be easy, but the important thing is to keep your mind open, because there may be something that you wouldn’t expect and if your mind isn’t open, or it is completely set on one idea, you may miss an opportunity you will never get again. Not acting and trying to stay “comfortable” could cause you to lose way more than you are willing to lose. You could lose a relationship, you could lose a job opportunity, you could lose an opportunity to go to school, you will never get anywhere if you aren’t uncomfortable.
Now, I’m not saying everything is going to be scary or uncomfortable, there will be times that you will be ready for a change and will do whatever it takes to make that change happen. But in the meantime, don’t sit around trying to avoid life, don’t be afraid of changes that may come (sometimes you will fear changes that will never even come), be courageous, explore and be happy. Life will get buried when you die, so don’t bury it before that.
Now, I’m going to quit stepping on toes and finish cleaning the underneath of my bed… I’m pretty sure there is an angry gremlin under there that is going to eat me in my sleep because I disturbed his nest.
Be Courageous,
Be Curious,
Don’t Stop Learning,
Trust God,
God Bless,
Jessica